Is someone taking advantage of your generous heart by draining your financial, emotional, or physical resources? Are you feeling spent because someone is monopolizing your time, space, or energy? Boundaries are important so that you can love someone else while simultaneously loving yourself, boundaries cultivate love. Evaluate where and with whom you need boundaries and start to put them into place. Stop answering every call, text, or request. A good guideline, to begin with, is to address every third contact. Be prepared for the other person to show emotion because you are no longer meeting their preconceived expectations. The more the other person reveals their true character, the clearer their underlying intent will become, and the easier it will be for you to set boundaries that resonate with you. You can move forward with integrity and the knowledge that your needs are equally important.
Thanks for saving a soul
Great post, Thanks
Well articulated and written. Life is filled with such people even in our immediate family. Thanks for proffering a solution to this mess.
This is very important. We have these people around us, and most of the time it is very hard to set boundaries because we feel guilty. 🙁
Working hard to set boundaries up…. people don’t like it, but that’s too bad for them!
Exactly, too bad for them!
i nominated you for the liebster award
Thank you so much! I am currently very busy teaching yoga and meditation. I will return to blogging more consistently as soon as possible. 🙂
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When a kid grows up in a household where they are allowed few rights or boundaries it becomes difficult to know how to create boundaries as an adult. That was my issue.
I totally get it. I took the same experience and put up too many boundaries. Then when that didn’t work, I swung too far back to no boundaries. Now, I really make an effort to have healthy boundaries.
Me too. I feel like I have a good balance now, from time to time I notice my defences may be built up a little too high still. I guess we make the best of what we have though!
nice share
Thanks!
Thank you Julie. Once again, very timely advice for me. I struggle with boundaries and at the moment I’m being sucked dry by friends and clients. And I didn’t even realise it! Time to start drawing those lines in the sand!! 💞
You can draw lines, build berms, move mountains, each case may be different. 😉 Good luck!
Awesome wisdom! You are right Julie. There is only so much time each day as well as only one of us. We can all benefit from prioritizing the most important aspects of our lives to receive our upmost attention.
Well said, thank you!